FAMILY UPDATE
You take the good, you take the bad, you take it all and then you have, the Facts Of Life, The Facts of Life...Ok, no I am not turning into Tudee! Lol!
Family matters get pretty confusing and complicated at times. I have been having to be around my "enemy" relatives I talked about in a earlier blog as of late. It is such a trip when you know someone talks so badly about you and acts nice to your face. It does a number on my head. I can't be fake like that. Although, I think I have come to the conclusion to not be so walled off when I have to be around them. I think I am just kind of relaxing into the reality of the situation and am coming to really accept it for what it is. I can enjoy certain things about these people when I find myself around them but when the night's done, it is done. I know who they are and that they aren' t the type of people I want to consider friends in my life. It is okay that it is the way it is. It has taken me 4 years to understand there is no understanding these people and how to function in the circumstances. I am such an analyzer it is sickening at times. I have given myself permission to let it go, to come to terms with knowing there is no perfect solution and no understanding the reason they do what they do. As with all things in life sometimes all that really matters is if we can figure out how to be okay with things no matter what path the other person chooses. We are only responsible for ourselves...
Family matters get pretty confusing and complicated at times. I have been having to be around my "enemy" relatives I talked about in a earlier blog as of late. It is such a trip when you know someone talks so badly about you and acts nice to your face. It does a number on my head. I can't be fake like that. Although, I think I have come to the conclusion to not be so walled off when I have to be around them. I think I am just kind of relaxing into the reality of the situation and am coming to really accept it for what it is. I can enjoy certain things about these people when I find myself around them but when the night's done, it is done. I know who they are and that they aren' t the type of people I want to consider friends in my life. It is okay that it is the way it is. It has taken me 4 years to understand there is no understanding these people and how to function in the circumstances. I am such an analyzer it is sickening at times. I have given myself permission to let it go, to come to terms with knowing there is no perfect solution and no understanding the reason they do what they do. As with all things in life sometimes all that really matters is if we can figure out how to be okay with things no matter what path the other person chooses. We are only responsible for ourselves...
posted by Miss Informed @9:53 AM
3 Comments:
I am glad that you have come to that conclusion. You guys do not deserve the treatment that they give you. heck, I am surprised that the family has not shunned them for their behavior. They are ridiculous. I would definitely say something if I were you. Oh and NO WAY would I go to that wedding.
Snackiepoo-There is a complete comfort in knowing what people are really about! It is freeing and does strengthen you because it eliminates the guessing out of things. It isn't odd at all really, because once you come to the necessary conclusions about people you don't have to trip on it anymore. It is a good place to be! Thanks for the comment!
***And yes I am going to the wedding, it is okay though- Some Random Girl! Promise! My head is screwed on straight about everything and I want to support this happy time in her life. I know where the lines ly, but there is a reality that before any of these problems-- way back when, we had lots of fun and good memories back in the day. We have so much history together as cousins. I am supporting from that "family" angle. Not from a friend angle...
Snackiepoo-There is a complete comfort in knowing what people are really about! It is freeing and does strengthen you because it eliminates the guessing out of things. It isn't odd at all really, because once you come to the necessary conclusions about people you don't have to trip on it anymore. It is a good place to be! Thanks for the comment!
***And yes I am going to the wedding, it is okay though- Some Random Girl! Promise! My head is screwed on straight about everything and I want to support this happy time in her life. I truly want her to be happy so she will hopefully stop being so toxic! I know where the lines ly, but there is a reality that before any of these problems-- way back when, we had lots of fun and good memories back in the day. We have so much history together as cousins. I am supporting from that "family" angle. Not from a friend angle...
Thank you for the comment and concern!
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